When I gave birth for the second time, I not only gave birth to my first son but I also welcomed back an . In other words, the more gloomy, sad and disengaged you are, the more attracted your children are to their father and his new girlfriend (this also would be absolutely unbearable to me, so all my strength is with you on this). There are a few things you should have on your list during the discussion: Very scary! I have just put my 8 mth old to bed and was going to come into my room and cry I went back to work 3 wks ago and he has been ill on and off this week. Hold your baby skin to skin, and keep your baby close. Our third daughter cant seem to stand me and it is really breaking my heart. thank you to anonymous who wrote most recently saying that it has gotten better. Why is that so? If grandad isnt there he wants to no me but if he is there he just blanks me, i try my hardest to try get his attention with no luck he just ignores me & blanks me. The rational part of me says that this makes sense because he is with daddy more than me at the moment. Dont have a help in the house because my mil doesnt let me keep one. She didnt when she newborn and she doesnt now. fnaf security breach drawings sundrop. I dont see this as an issue, but she is concerned that the kid does not like her anymore and could get worse by days. My 9-mth old baby boy is doing the same to me too. I work full time and my one-year-old goes to daycare 3 days per week and stays at home with her dad 2 days per week. for example, is perfect for a baby with separation anxiety. Take a deep breath and focus and love and joy when you interact with your daughter. You are unhappy and your son and you dont have much fun together. Parenthood is a great opportunity for personal development! 2.) she would prefer me if she is with me and strangers but at home I am no where in her priority list. Also she is obsessed with my mother and just ignores me or is mean to me. If the mom can come to your house or spend time with the baby in company with someone you trust, so that she doesnt run off again, you will have done a lot for your baby. A few weeks back she was ill and I stayed at home to look after her. She wont get proper help if its not face2face. Around 12 weeks or so, speak with your boss about the details of your maternity leave. there was even one night where she pushed me away and tried to crawl away when i got near. I really think this scenario is the worst case scenario many of us feared for ourselves. If the baby doesn't like this, try again later. And as much as possible, have your wife join in. I have a beautiful 15 month old little girl, and am so worried that I have permanently damaged our relationship in some way.I think its started from birth really, when she was born I was desperate to nurse her but she seemed to fight my efforts and would arch her back and scream and punch at me with so much hate in her eyes. She wants to go to ANYONE (atleast any relative that shes familiar with) instead of me; her dad most importantly. I wanted to say thank you to those who shared their stories and especially to those whose answers said what is more motherly than to UNCONDITIONALLY love their child, no matter what response they may be giving me. Its hard for me to deal with this feeling, but being sad about this hasnt helped at this point. 6 wk old son doesn't like me (his mother) by: Anonymous. Im totally on the same boat as all of you(s)! But it can take some time to start enjoying the ride ;-) Please help what could it be if ive been such a great mommy to him super lovable!! I guess maybe now i feel like maybe he knows that I didnt want him at first because he has always been a little distant with me since he was born. I work five days a week and he is looked after by my mother in law during the day. I am in a similar state..My daughter has chosen my husband and my MIL always over me..I had a C section and whenever she used to cry as a newborn my MIL would come and whisk her away..Dad was her all time fav cos he would sing to her in his deep voice..I comforted myself saying that it would all be fine but she is one year old now and I see no improvement..When she is crying, she doesnt want me.My MIL whisks her away and she stops crying in a sec..My MIL thinks I am not doing a good job as a mon and that erodes my confidence as a working woman and a mom..I regret having my baby sometimes even though she is the most beautiful angel in my eyes..I cry and I have a diary written for her to read when she becomes a mom..On the overall I dont feel like a mom..My daughter doesnt hug me..She doesnt call me Mama.She hugs her dad and grandma all the time and says even Apple and Papa..I guess I am just not meant to live!! However, my daughter seems to want nothing to do with me. (, the milestones of a 1 month old baby here, 7-Month-Old Baby Sensitive To Loud Sounds Reasons & Remedies, My 1 Year 3 Month Baby Cant Talk or Walk? My mother says she must feel secure with me and to be happy she has such a good relationship with her fatherand I am. 7) Be patient with yourselfat home and at work. Paula, do you think its because of the association with bad things?? Discuss a plan with mom. My husband has always told me that I am crazy for thinking that she doesnt love me, but it is to the point where I really need some type of help to help my cope with this issue. And since you have been at home with him, youre not very exciting. The weird thing is when I pick her up she whines and clings to her dad and when I put her in the car she is fine and talking 10 mins down the road.. is this the transition between both parents? Why does she prefer her father when he can go a whole week without ever seeing her? Good luck and let us know how things develop! It did not used to be this way she used to be very attached to me. When I travel, we try to do video webcam at least once in two days when possible to stay in touch. Usually at this age, making sure that your child isnt doing anything dangerous (swallowing things, climbing too high, running out in the street, biting himself or other children et cetera) is more or less enough as an ambition. I work very part time 3 days a week for a total of 16 hours. First, talk to your mom about how you feel. But as soon as Daddy is home, I really become part of the furniture. Praise your wife when she manages to be cool about it it isnt easy! And like all husbands out there, mine too, asks me not to take it personally. Frankly, Im glad Im not the only one in the world who is going through this. Just 15 minutes of fun interaction. Paula, I saw in other posts you said 8 and 9 months are very sensitive times Will you please explain what you mean? So youve done great job. I just googled and found this website.. and saw I was not alone. I know it is hard and scary and painful after many months of being pregnant and then being everything for a child. Hi all, According the U.S. Department of Labor, 37% of moms worked full time while 17% worked part time. Try carrying your baby's photo with you at your workplace. At around 7-10 months many babies go through stages of separation anxiety and stranger anxiety, meaning that they are terrified to be left alone and/or meet strangers. (It has absolutely NOTHING to do with how much you love your daughter; that was an insensitive and completely incorrect comment by your dad!). I wake him up with a bottle in the morning and put him to bed with a massage and kisses and rocking at night. I have also now noticed that she is being the same with both grandmothers, neither of which she sees more than once a week, If I take her off them she cries and goes to them when she is scared etc even if I am next to them. But then I realized that I dont give that to each of my children every day at all. Play lots of games with your daughter. Your baby will not feel abandoned by you when you return to work. Because I was in a very bad place myself over this issue, I understand your pain and encourage you in the strongest terms to get support for yourself. That does NOT mean that the baby doesnt love dad (or mom in your case), but simply that she is a developmental stage where she mainly can handle showing love to one person at the time. Do you think itll pass? I have a 7 month old son and since he was born his grandmother(dads mom) has been obsessed. My son is 18 mos old. That is actually a very sensitive age when separation and stranger anxiety set is. Paula. Try to see the bonding as a process and give it time. Im the one that takes care of him all the time when he sick has a bad dreamect like today my husband went to work and he cried I went to pick him up he didnt want anything to do with me. Instead allow yourself to really enjoy your time with your daughter. Hi my 9 1/2 month old boy is with me all day since birth now daddy is home with me since he got laid off I do everything for him. In addition, you could leave a used t-shirt them, to be used for naptime, for example, so your smell is as familiar as possible. And be there when they come back. We share all parenting tasks equally, so it isnt as if he spends more time with her, though he was with her for a few months before he went to daycare (3-6 months). A very sleepy baby may accept a bottle without even realizing it, so if your baby's resisting, try slipping in that target near the end of a nap, when she's still half asleep. I totally understand that you are thinking about another job, and maybe that isnt such a bad idea over time But until then or if you choose not to, there are a few things you can do. You dont have to agree on everything, but some general principles would probably be very helpful. But those 6 weeks were rough for everyone involved, and baby's gotta eat! Please take care. I feel like a lazy, uninvolved mother and I hate it. There isnt anything I wouldnt do for her. Make sure you give her 100% of your attention for at least 30 minutes each day and have FUN together during those 30 minutes. Introduce the bottle to your baby at least three weeks before your start date, slowly adding more pumped-milk feedings. I have tried to brush the way my son behaves off, and put it down to just being a phase, but it has gone on for so long now. Please dont give up. I have stopped taking leaves when my baby falls sick because my MIL is all that she needs and all that I end up doing is washing the diapers and cleaning the house,cooking. I nursed him up until a month ago. I have never been away from her for more than 2 hours before this and now she doesnt even care to see me. Or is my situation just too unique? Im happy and relieved to report that our little one is no longer preferring one parent over another. Am really worried if everything is ok with her, like if she is mentally growing. My daughter is 2 1/2 years old, and she used to be very affectionate. I feel left out. So you are probably doing a fabulous job with making her feel safe with you and also maybe she hasnt yet started to suffer from separation anxiety. I dont usually do online chatting, but I needed to get this off my chest. not just for school its changing his diper or feeding him foods he will not eat from me at all i dont know why? But, I do know I cant wallow. Im starting to worry about the mother. I take care of her so nicely and to the best of efforts but she doesnt like me. It hurt me so much, I feel as if lm not doing enough. You need to try to get rid of this guilt in your heart! Hello everyone i am a stay home mom from the day my baby boy was born i do EVERYTHING for him!!! It broke my heart. Since she was born, she bonded with my husband and my mother but not with me. Some moms return to work just a few weeks after having a baby, while others take up to a year (or longer) of maternity leave. I am happy to report that he is now 12 months old and has really come to be much more bonded to me, though again he prefers my partner if hes offered a choice between the two of us. I have not seen the same reaction for me. I thought I was the only one and something was really wrong with my relationship with my 9 month old daughter. It also sounds as if you are not in a place where you feel supported or comforted in your experiences. For many people, this factor carries the most weight in their decision. However, there is no way of telling ahead of time whether your baby will go happily from breast to bottle and back again. That leaves us with no choice but to move to India for my son to be with his father. In addition, I really think you should start reading books about adoption if you havent already. A few months ago my fiance lost her job and is at home 24/7. So once him and I began dating his daughters mother began using the daughter as leverage to get things in return for him to spend time with his daughter. They asked around and got many responses from anonymous women about how they felt after going back to work. Please help!!!!! 11. When she comes home from nursery its a whole lot worse, I think its because she has been with other women who are completely fun all of the time. Ask your midwife or doctor for help immediately if any part of you answers yes to my above question. I just wanted to post an update and some encouragement that things really do get better with time. Ive made the comment to my husband on several occasions, but now that my daughter is 3 and expresses herself verbally it is really affecting me. I've tried Philips avent, pigeon and now using hegen. When he was 4-6 mos, a friend was holding him and he didnt want to come back to me when I asked for him. I am really glad to see that I am not the only one with this problem. After reading these posts I made sure to remain absolutely calm and neutral and not get teary or upset when he preferred his daddy over me. My husbands dad invited us to go to Branson and get away before my Husband starts the engineering program at K-State. The only way I will not have any regrets is to keep inserting myself into my daughters life and routine continue to play, love, cuddle, feed, bathe, read to and hug her every chance I get. Instead, these are 3 things that I didn't expect to be blessed with when going back to work. So I came online, and read this entire thread. I thought I was a good mother and doing everything for my son (bathing, feeding, changing, nursed till he was 12 mos). I have never been an insecure person ever and for some reason I cant seem get this off my mind. in the morning when she wakes up, she doesnt even smile at me anymore. Everyone has told me that boys love their mommy and Im sure he does but I wish he didnt do that because like the other moms on this site, it really hurts my feelings. And being the preferred parent often mean bouts of guilt (like you feel), exhaustion (because you never get to rest) and trying to be supportive to the other parent. However, before it got better I came to a sort of terms with it more or less, though I had bouts of severe depression about it from time to time. By Alice Gibbs On 6/23/22 at 12:17 PM EDT. Here are five ways you can get ready to go back to work. I do the same, care, dress, cook, feed, bottle. Running away like that is completely unacceptable. (And by all means, get the same kind of time alone with your three year old too!). When she was 5 months old, daddy came back.the moment she saw my husband at the door was a funny one. Her father works and Im always with her and Its just me. If I am not around she is fine with her mom to an extent but still keeps pestering her mom wanting dad to come home and do things. We should all hold our heads up with pride at what AWESOME mothers and fathers we are, how dearly we love our children. What scares me the most is that I dont want her to start having tantrums when she cant get what she wants. Then I have my daughter four years later, and she is the same way, and she was born vaginally, immediately placed skin to skin, and I never worked or was separated from her. What she calls you means nothing. Tonight, he did not want to come to me she had to push him on me! Ive spent a fortune on psychotherapy and self- help groups, and I still suffer. I have a wonderful 5 month old baby boy. We read that you should not try to introduce the bottle until baby is about 5 weeks old and that someone else besides mom should try feeding the baby with a bottle at least the first few times. I really dont know :-( hope it will change in future.. :-( A Big Hug goes to all those mummies and daddies who are in the same boat as me! Im the mother who wrote nearly a year ago that my baby boy didnt seem to love me, I posted later that things seemed to be improving and now, at 18 months, I feel absolutely loved by my son. Before they head back to work after baby, send a text to brighten their day. I just left my 4-month-old son for the first time overnight with my parents. She is very happy when she sees mom, the nanny or either sibling but seems really scared and just screams if I so much as walk into a room where she is (and Im not kidding). It's no secret that returning to work after the birth of your child can be overwhelming. I am very responsive with both. seems like they dont need me anymore. He was born September 2 of last year and I was lucky enough to be able to spend all this time with him. Play games together with both her and her if needed. I am feeling so rejected and lonely. This is painful, really painful. she enjoys talking to him on a phone. But my 14month old is obsessed with his dad and it totally kills me. A couple of things helped: 1) we play her favorite music at very loud volume during the feeding to distract her, 2) we make sure to feed her before she gets very hungry so that she is still in a good mood, 3) we make sure my husband, the caregiver, always gives her the bottle, and 4) we keep trying at different times if she doesn't take the After reading all of your stories, I am much more motivated to keep trying to connect with my daughter. But when daddy comes home, she always seems to forget my existence. My daughter just turned one. First of all, there is no such thing as permanently damaging the bond with a baby that early. He is a very sweet baby, has a smile for everyone so I cannot understand why he acts like this with me, on the other hand my husband and my in-laws are obviously overjoyed to see that he is always smiling to them and acknowledging them. As soon as she sees me she crys my mamma and whines and doesnt want him to come near her or even talk to her. Maybe you can decide that she goes out a couple of evenings a week, so that you can keep 100% focus on having a good time with your daughter. My partner thinks Im being ridiculous, but thats easy for the preferred parent to think, Im sure. This can make a toddler feel like mom has been taken away or even rejected. Do whatever it takes to push her to her place. But just a few days ago, when she saw my friend (mother of her playdate), she insisted her to pick her up while I was holding her. Our song hs never stoppd being sung even my hsband ws around. He always trying to get daddys attention instead. I guess i am being silly. Hi Im a step father an I have a little boy who is 2 now an I been in his life since he was three months old. 4. sometimes I sit and think i should just give her to her father. It will pass. Im a married mom with a 14 month old son who is obsessed with his dad and treats me like garbage a lot of the time. I adore and love my som immensely. Of these numbers, working moms are taking the brunt of the burden. Its my first baby and this hurts sooo much inside seeing it happen everyday. She gets hysterical if I take her off him. But I dont get a look in. Here is the good news: you are not alone. Then, regardless of if she wants to go to dad, grandma or the neighbour later on, you can hopefully rest in the fact that the two of you have had a fun, loving day together. If your baby is younger than one year, even if she seems to be losing interest in breastfeeding, chances are she is not yet ready to wean. My wife dismisses my concerns so Im looking for the reassurance online. Actually, I wouldnt be surprised if your mother is right. And hug your wife. I can see other parents are having similar problems, so maybe it is something she will grow out of in time. I wrote on this post several months ago, when my son was 9 months old. Which is great but I feel useless. lying down or the underarm hold). i feeed her ok but after a feed she now just turns over away from me. Not a good feeling. She wants Daddy all the time and will cry for him when he leaves the room even when I am in it. Being 18 months old, your daughter is in an age where turning out towards the world is a natural development. It really hurts and more so because i am going through so many medical problems after my pregnancy. To start, focus on playing and engaging with him in a fun, even nonsensical way. I am 7 months pregnant again and am terrified that I will cling to this baby in a way to have the bond I dont have with my daughter. no more crying out 2 daddy when she has a tummy ache.and she hasbecome so excited whn i come home frm work.My husband and I lives in a different continent due to the nature of my work, and he wd come to stay wt us 2-3 times a year at around 5 weeks to 2 months a time.So whn he left for Asia when our baby is 2 months old, we established a routine using the internet via webcam and video calls every single day. If you buy something through a link on this site, I may receive a small commission. But it seems she does. I dont want this to have any lasting affects on our long term relationship. Reading the entries and knowing that others are going through the same thing somehow makes me feel a little better. But you say that you gave up on her. Our job is then to not take it personally, not reinforce it by showing strong emotions, but simply allow our children to for some reason need one parent more than the other from time to time, It is painful, but it is normal development. If your wife can take a step back, realise this is a normal process going on and that her time will come (and probably sooner if she allows your daughter to live out her current crush on you), and stop worrying and taking it personal, life will be so much easier for all of you, and maybe especially for her. and I'll see you tonight! Read on for tips on how to make it work for you and your baby. Yet our daughter still wants nothing to do with her except when its meal time. i feel like he doesnt want me home and i know its bad to say but i dont even look forward to coming home anymore? Love, Peace and Joy to you all with lots of Blessings!!!! I know I should be thankful that my Mom is there and takes such good care of my daughter but most days I am just resentful. Thats good too; try to see that. Its just that when my husband and i decided to start trying for another baby i quickly had changed my mind and decided i wasnt ready yet and that i was content with it just being me, my husband, and our first son, but it was too late and when i decided to not try anymore i already conceived. I take care of my son and love him and do the very best I can. his my world!! this week she turned 9 months and she has somehow attached herself to my mom. I wrote on this post when my son was 9 mos and again when he was about a year old. Anyway, he will be one in a week or so and Im happy to say that things are back to normal and this seems like a distant memory. If it is fairly new maximum 1 year or so what is going on is actually a completely natural development stage in your daughters life. Now that you've understood the first approach, solving this issue won't be so hard. Toddler Rejecting Mom After New Baby. As soon as I pass him to someone else he is quiet immediately. I was worried then that since she dealt with so many different nurses who were women, she wouldnt have a clue who I was. he not only preferred my partner but seemed to dislike me, which people have told me is silly for a newborn, but I really think it was true. Your daghter is still so young, just one year old. Breast refusal tip #8: Try a different feeding position. yes its also my in-laws first grand child but at times i feel there are selffish. When my daughter was 7 months old I left for bootcamp, kind of my last resort I was a teen mom and couldnt get a job and had no money and the military provided us a secure future, but now I regret it. I was scared of her! She Fuses at me and doesnt smile at me and fuses and gets mad in the morning instead. she would change his clothes without asking me and constantly hold him all day, the past few months all he wants is her he reaches out whenever he sees her or will start crying if i dont give him 2 her. My Baby Doesnt Want Me and Im The Mom!? Instead of turning your relationship into a power struggle, (trying to make him say mommy, for example), be proud of how much you have helped him to grow already! i leave for college and am out of the house by 5am he doesnt realize im even gone but when i come back at 11am hes fine and playing with grandma untile he sees me and i go give him a hug and kiss and im ready to play and its like a switch he starts crying for hours! Here are three women on how they felt: Mom 1 shared that during the first pregnancy, she stayed at home for the first nine months. Since about 3 months old she prefers daddy over mommy but now it is to the point where she tells me I dont love you I love my daddy. She pushes me away and wants nothing to do with me. I dont know what to do, I feel desperate. especially when im there , but when im not around they seem to get along very well. This is my second son who is 8months and I feel me and him bonded great till a month ago and my husbands work schedule changed he is home all day I cant even get a second without him around and when he leaves the room our son fusses and tries to getaway from me I took him in another room to get some time with him he jus screamed and finally ate and went to bed I am very scheduled till few weeks ago, my husband is very not. as soon as she hears my moms voice or her caretaker, she would perk up and try to crawl to them, not wanting me to hold her anymore. it was really a funny yet a touching experience for us. And when he wakes up at night he always looks for his dad and when I want to hold him he pushes my hands away. If your baby was nursing well and suddenly refuses your breast, this may be what some call a . I am a stay at home mom, I give her stimulation when she wants it by giving her tummy time or playtime with me or her bouncy. but, really, we'll be alright. Do I spend too much time with her? i dont know why he is acting like this .Does he hate me or doesnt feel secure with me ? She is in love, so to say, and wants to be with you all the time. Whats worse is that my mom seems to enjoy the attention from him. For the mom with low milk supply who is supplementing with bottles her baby may start refusing to breastfeed. What can I do? Third, it gives you a possibility to do something else than taking care of your daughter. Mostly because he or she is a baby who really has no idea what "work" is, but also because you're a good mom who loves her baby no matter what. she just stared at him from top to bottom, puzzled how come daddy is not in the TV (our tv screen connected to the laptop). No phone, no computer, no cleaning, cooking, working, or thinking about other things. So here comes my last advice. By preparing during maternity leave, you can feel more empowered in your choice and ensure a smooth transition for you and your baby. You know, she is way too young to be that rancorous. Let's look at why a baby rejects mom after going back to work, and some helpful tips on what to do about it! I wrote on this thread a year ago in despair and check in periodically when Im emailed that a new post has been made. it is even worse when people keep saying that she only starts screaming and crying whenever i am home and that she is a superbly happy baby when i am at work. For example, dinner time could be a point in time where after your mom stays away from your daughter as much as possible. Who would have thought that a tiny little mite like her could devestate me. I get upset and I feel so rejected, It hurts to feel unloved. Find reliable childcare Getting childcare is one of the toughest aspects of going back to work. You are not alone, you have not done anything wrong and you should not be feeling this sad. Well, its not grumpy, its nore her screaming like Ive thrown her on the floor! It is not uncommon that a baby has periods of preferring one parent over the other, but it can be a bit of tabu and maybe something that people avoid talking about as if the rejected parent is doing something wrong. Take a bath the three of you, cuddle up together for a nighttime story and go out having fun together. If i let her have her way, ill never get to be with her because she never wants me. The more you as her mom can help her both with attachment as a young toddler, but as a child growing more aware of her history, the emotions and questions it raises, the more you can help your daughter grow up as a happy, confident child. Mom's Question: It is heart-breaking, what can I do? I just want to know what I am doing wrong, so I can change it. Not an easy task as my parents DID love me conditionally. Much more effective than disciplining a child. Please think long and hard before you do so, and before you delude yourself into thinking that leaving the baby with someone other than you for extended periods is no big deal. I rush home to see her and she cries/moans when she sees me I hold my hands out to her and she clings to whoever she is with at the time. Im often doing something else at the same time as interacting with them. 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